Wolfpack Wonders Advice Column

October 5, 2009  
Filed under Student Life

Do you have a question about school, friends, family, or life? Do you need a suggestion about what to do in a situation that you are involved in? Or do you just need someone to hear you out? If so, send Lala an email. If you have a question, LaLa has some advice for you.     Email: advceclmn@ymail.com 

Anonymous says:

“Dear Lala,

I’ve been having issues with my school work and my relationship. I’ve been having a lot of school work lately, my after school sport, and no time for anything else. This has affected my relationship because we have no time to hang out anymore. I really want this one to work. I need help. Thank you for your time.”

Lala replies:

Dear Anonymous,

            Be more organized with your day. Follow a simple routine after school.  Depending on the sport, do your homework before or after practice. While doing your homework, take a 10 to15 minute break to relax your head or tend to your relationship. Do not forget to be open in your relationship. Tell him or her what is going on in your life. It takes two to make a relationship work. Stay focused and don’t let your emotions get in the way of your education and goals.

            Remember that school and education comes before all else. Your grades affect your sport too, so it’s good to keep that in mind. If you are having problems with your schedule, talk to your teacher and coach and try to work something out. For example, ask your teacher for more class time to finish up your homework, and ask your coach for a longer break to catch up on homework. If your grades are dropping, talk to your teachers to see if  there is any extra credit you can do, or re-do an assignment or assessment for more points to bring your grade up. Or simply take important notes on the subject and look over them a few times every night.

            Keep the relationship problems out of the way until you and your partner can talk about it face to face. Avoid talking about it over the phone or through texting. Telephone conversation is the worst way to communicate with someone when you are trying to fix a problem. Plan to do things with your significant other on the weekend rather than during the week. Make sure you spend some time with your partner, as long as it’s not all of your time. Being in a relationship does not always have to require having physical contact. Some great things to do are writing letters to one another and communicating through e-mail or I.M. One last thing to do is to keep the relationship bind strong by being truthful about your thoughts and feelings, and to try to not feel doubtful of your relationship. Confidence is key in any situation.

Dreamer says:

“Dear Lala,

I’m having trouble paying attention in class. I’m always finding myself daydreaming. What should I do?” 

Lala replies:

Dear Dreamer,

            Daydreaming is a train of thoughts. When you’re daydreaming you become unaware of your surroundings. When you feel that reality becomes too difficult, confusing, unsatisfying, or uninteresting, daydreaming is a convenient escape. You may be daydreaming in classes that seem uninteresting. Daydreams seem more satisfying than reality. Daydreaming can become a habit. The best way to prevent daydreaming is to make yourself snap out of it when you start drifting away. Try writing down what is on your mind, and then put it aside and read it later.

            Consider this: You are sitting in back of the room in first period. The subject starts to bore you, and you decide to fantasize about what you’re going to eat for lunch. Instead of writing it down, you allow your dream to take control and have a blank stare on your face. Your teacher points you out, and not only are you in trouble, but you missed an important lesson on the subject you might be having a test on. What went wrong?

            First, depending on your hearing and eyesight, sitting in the back of the room can be difficult for you to understand the activities going on in your class. I suggest you talk to your teacher and ask to be moved to the front of the room where you can see better and more easily hear the teacher speaking. Lastly, you drifted off into your fantasy and followed it. Writing down your thoughts, instead of letting them roll around in your head, can help you be more aware of your surrounding and keep you from being completely lost. Keep your eyes on the prize, which should be good grades, not what you’re having for lunch.

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